“I can’t be honest–I’ll hurt their feelings!”

This is a great time to be alive if you’re single and wanting to find a great relationship. Never before have there been so many ways to meet potential partners. The tried and true methods are still available: the workplace, the grocery store, being fixed up by friends, health clubs, churches and nightclubs. But there [...]

10 Commitments for Conscious Relationships

No matter where you are in your relationship journey, making conscious commitments begins the process of positive change in one’s love life. The Latin word for commitment is, committere, and means, “to gather your energy and move in a chosen direction.” Using this definition, I view commitment as an energetic experiential intention and not a [...]

The Resolution Equation (or how to be happy whether or not you achieve your goals)

Recent events have given me a deeper understanding of the Buddha’s insight that attachment invites suffering. As many of us begin to work toward our goals and resolutions for this year, I thought I’d share my attachment story with you. Maybe it will save you some grief.
As most of you know, I had open-heart surgery [...]

A Conscious Response to Erectile Dysfunction

Al Pacino, in the movie Scarface, screamed famously, “Say hello to my little friend!” His “friend,” of course, was a gun and to say it fired the way it was supposed to is quite an understatement. He mowed down his enemies.
However, for many men these days, it seems their “friend” is not “firing” the way [...]

Spenders, Savers and Different Kinds of Lovers

I have a client who is in a relatively new relationship. Evidently, the honeymoon is over because he asked me, “Roy, will a ‘saver’ always attract a ‘spender’ when it comes to money and finances?”
My guess is you’re smiling at his question, because you know, maybe all to well, what they’re experiencing. If you’ve ever [...]

Straight Talk on Internet Dating

Perhaps you’ve noticed that on-line dating sites advertise heavily. They realize that many single people want to find a mate and that they may consider trying Internet dating. That may be true for you. So whether you’re considering it for the first time or if you’re currently on-line, I thought I’d offer some straight talk [...]

Breaking the Groundhog Day Relationship Syndrome

Many single people are extremely frustrated with the dating scene. They often compare it to the movie Groundhog Day—they keep attracting the same kind of person over and over and over again. For example, women often say they have a pattern of being with men who are self-centered, emotionally unavailable and afraid of commitment. Men [...]

Straight Talk on Finding The One

I describe a great intimate relationship like this: Chemistry + Compatibility = “The One”. In other words, our soulmate would be someone we’re both attracted to and aligned with. Simple enough, right? Well, not really. While chemical attraction is easy to discern, it can also be so overwhelming that it blinds us to the compatibility [...]

Enlightenment for Dummies: 3 Simple Questions to Set You Free

I’m a dummy. I’m not ashamed to admit it. I don’t like things that are complex and complicated. “K.I.S.S.” is my motto: Keep It Simple Stupid. Whatever I’ve been interested in, whether it’s getting my book published, raising a well-adjusted son, playing better golf or even growing spiritually, I want a roadmap that is easy [...]

It’s Never Too Late to Find Love

One of the wonderful benefits of getting older is the wisdom and insight gained from a life lived with a spirit of curiosity and reflection. Jane Fonda is a beautiful example of this. In the August 2011 issue of Oprah Winfrey’s magazine, O, Ms. Fonda, who is 73 years old, talks candidly about her love [...]