WORKING WITH ROY
I am the world’s biggest fan of relationship coaching because it has allowed me to attract, date and marry a truly amazing woman and build a relationship with her that most people would die for. I sincerely believe that partnering with an exceptional coach is an essential step in attracting genuine, lasting love. I would be honored to support you in discovering and displaying your most authentic Self, which of course, is the key to attracting the love of your life.
Those who are interested in working with me usually have a number of questions. While it is always best to talk to me directly (which you can do at no charge), below is a short discussion of a few important topics and issues. Feel free to scroll down to the topics that interest you.
• Who I Work With (and don’t)
• What Makes Me Different
• Coaching Structure
• What I Ask of My Clients
• A Snapshot of a Typical Session
• My Coaching Tool Kit
WHO I WORK WITH (and don’t)
I work with single adults (divorced, widowed, never married), of any gender or sexual orientation, who are frustrated and disappointed with the dating scene and are open to an intentional and conscious approach to finding the love of their lives. My clients are curious, willing to change, keep their agreements, interested in their spiritual path, playful, functional in life and able to pay my fee.
I choose not to work with those who refuse to let go of their victim mentality and are unwilling to take responsibility for their relationship history and experience. I also don’t work with active chemical addiction, people under 21, or those who have someone else paying my fee on their behalf. I am interested in working with clients who are both seeking to discover who they truly are and willing to radically reinvent themselves according to what they find.
WHAT MAKES ME DIFFERENT
I am a valuable ally for those who are committed to consciously manifesting the love of their lives because:
• Training. I have had the privilege of being trained in what I believe is the most valuable way: I’ve been mentored, for literally hundreds of hours and in one-on-one settings, by some of the best and most famous psychologists, spiritual teachers and relationship coaches in the world.
• Approach. I have developed a completely unique and revolutionary five-fold approach to attracting the love of your life. I am confident that it will work for you because it did for me.
• Availability. In most instances, a client only has access to their coach, therapist or counselor during a particular session. But that’s not the case for my clients. They can interact with me each day, including nights and weekends. This is further described below.
• Insight. Being divorced, dumped by a fiancée and a host of other relationship disasters propelled me on an evolutionary journey where I explored the depths of my own consciousness and my relationship dynamics. That inner work has afforded me great insight into relationships, including masculine/feminine dynamics, self-sabotaging patterns in dating and intimacy and relationship personas—all of which greatly serve my clients in attracting healthy, genuine love.
• Enlightenment. Most coaches give their clients techniques, tips and tools to help them achieve some goal. That’s fine, but that’s now what I’m about. I go much deeper than that. I’m interested in my client’s self-awareness, their personal development and growth, seeing them let go of all that’s not truly them and discovering and displaying their most authentic Self.
COACHING STRUCTURE
Here are a few policies and guidelines that my experience has shown create a space where deep learning and manifestation can easily and quickly occur:
• The Client commits to a package of four one-hour sessions. Life change takes time.
• The Client has two months in which to use their four sessions. Too much time between sessions weakens momentum and hinders growth.
• Coaching sessions are conducted by phone or in my office. I have clients from all over the country and coaching by phone works very well. In rare situations, I will go to a client’s home or office if absolute, uninterrupted privacy can be assured.
• Normally, the client tells me what they want to work on in a particular session, and so in that sense, they set the agenda. However, quite frequently I notice something that I feel the client should pay attention to, something they haven’t seen or thought of, and if that’s the case, I will take the client in that direction.
• Clients can call me daily for “in the moment” support. These calls usually last about 15 minutes and are included in the four-session package. They do not need to be scheduled, nor are they restricted to business hours.
• If sessions are conducted by phone, the client calls me at the appointed time.
• The Client pays for their package of sessions in advance and there is no refund once the first session has begun.
• Other than in the case of an emergency or a special circumstance, if a client cancels or reschedules a session on the day it is to occur, that session is considered used.
• My pricing structure is not posted on-line. I have a standard fee and I don’t take insurance. We can discuss this during your complimentary 30 minute exploratory phone call.
WHAT I ASK OF MY CLIENTS
When I coach people, I want to support them to create the life that they want. This can only happen if I am creating the life that I want. And I want to enjoy my work and my clients as much as they enjoy working with me. When my clients make the following commitments, coaching them is not only extremely successful, but an absolute joy. My clients are willing to:
• let go of certainty and embrace curiosity
• take risks in support of their full aliveness
• be real and authentic at every and any stage of an intimate relationship
• let go of the victim mentality (believing they are “at the effect of”) and instead take full responsibility for the life they are creating
• have fun
• keep their agreements and commitments impeccably
• joyfully tell others about our work together
A SNAPSHOT OF A TYPICAL SESSION
While each coaching session is unique, they always occur in an atmosphere of playfulness, curiosity and candor. That said, I have found that the following elements usually occur in a typical session:
• Check-in. The client and I reveal what is occurring for us in the moment.
• Agenda. In most cases, the client brings up the issues that are to be addressed. However, there are times that I ask the client to focus their attention on an issue that I think is valuable to discuss.
• Questions. While I want to understand the client’s feelings and circumstances, I primarily ask questions to invite the client into a space of self-awareness, which is where realization and manifestation occur.
• Body-centered. While most sessions are discussion oriented, many times they become experiential. I may ask the client to close their eyes for a time and breathe, express their emotions through sound or movement or even discuss a topic while standing on the Drama Triangle (victim, villain, hero).
• Challenge. In most sessions, I ask my client to take a risk in support of their stated dreams and goals.
• Tools. In nearly all sessions, I give my clients the tools they need to live and love consciously. My coaching style is extremely practical and “how-to” in nature.
• Commitment and Homework. Near the end of a session, the client commits to a self-determined course of action; one they feel will bring about positive change in their life. I expect my clients to keep their commitments.
• Scheduling. The next session is scheduled.
MY COACHING TOOL KIT
The primary tool I use to guide my clients toward enlightened living and loving is my own direct experience and journey. However, I often use, and am highly trained in, the following powerful and proven techniques and tools:
• The Enneagram Personality Type System
• Hale Dwoskin: The Sedona Method
• Byron Katie: The Work
• Ken Wilber: Integral Spirituality and Transpersonal Psychology
• David Deida: Techniques and Practices for Masc./Fem. Sexual Expression
• Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks: Body/Mind and Relationship Vibrance Techniques
• Jim Loehr: Energy Management System
• David Allen: Personal/Professional Organization
• The Drama Triangle (Victim, Villain, Hero)
• Vipassana Meditation
• Breathwork
• Buddhism
• Christianity
Roy has one son and lives in Orlando, Florida with his wife. He is available for coaching in person or by telephone. For a complimentary 30-minute coaching session, call 407-687-3387.
