Finding and Following Your Bliss
Finding and Following Your Bliss
Roy Biancalana
Author and Certified Relationship Coach
www.coachingwithroy.com
roy@coachingwithroy.com
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This is a true story. One of my friends told me that when his father was recently at the Winter Olympics in Vancouver, B.C. he found himself in an elevator with Tony Robbins, the world renown personal success guru. Having Tony as a captive audience, he took the opportunity to ask him for advice. He said, “Tony, what’s the secret to success?” Tony’s answer was this: “Find your passion and live it completely and fearlessly.”
Chances are you didn’t fall off your chair at his response, did you? I know I didn’t when I first heard it. It’s not that earth-shattering of an idea and Tony surely isn’t the first one to come up with it. But his answer will rock your world (it did mine) when you make it personal: “Do I know my passion and am I living it completely and fearlessly”? In other words, is your life completely aligned with what you’re most passionate about, and if not, are you willing to do something about it?”
Recently I have become aware that my life has been misaligned. I either didn’t know, or more likely, was unwilling to admit what I was most passionate about, and consequently, I was not living my passion completely. Why? Fear. Let me explain.
I have been coaching for quite a while now, and in that time, I’ve coached all kinds of people with all kinds of problems. And it’s gone well. Most of my clients have made significant improvements in their lives. But when I tune into my deepest heart and ask what I enjoy doing the most, what gives me goose-bumps is working with single people who want to manifest the love of their lives. I absolutely love that topic. I salivate at the idea of working with single people who have experienced disappointing relationships and are also frustrated with the dating scene; and yet, because they still want to love and be loved, they are willing to engage in an intentional, conscious approach to attracting their ideal partner. That gets the blood pumping in me.
Now you might ask, “Why would fear come up?” Well, because whenever you say “yes” to something, you also say “no” to something else. To walk toward something is to walk away from something too. To niche myself as a relationship coach who works with single people, is to say “no” to other kinds of clients. That’s scary. Basically, it’s walking away from potential income. It’s saying “no” to dough.
Here’s why I bring all this up: The more personal, the more universal. In other words, I’ll bet some of you aren’t living your passion completely and fearlessly either. Am I right? It may be that you’re in a job that you aren’t passionate about. It may be that there’s a hobby that you absolutely love, but that you have abandoned. It may be that you’re in an intimate relationship that you’re not passionate about. It may be that you’re living in a part of the country, or even in a home, that you’re not passionate about. And I guarantee that it’s some kind of fear that is keeping you from following your bliss. Living life fully and joyfully is being willing to risk everything for your aliveness.
I’m doing that. Where ever I go and no matter who I’m talking with, I’m telling people that I work with single people who are willing to engage in an intentional five phase process that I have developed to help them manifest the love of their lives. I’m changing my business cards, creating a new logo, redoing my brochures and within a few weeks my website is going to be rewritten. I am completely following my passion. And the result? Well, in the last month, amazingly, my business has taken a big leap! The fear was an illusion.
How about you? Do you know your passion? Are you willing to risk everything to live it fully and completely? Remember what Tony Robbins said: Following your passion is the key to success. And don’t read that in merely monetary terms. Success, in my mind, is happiness. Therefore, following your passion will lead to happiness.
But maybe you don’t know what you’re deepest passion is or how to align your life with it. If that’s the case, you’ll need a coach—but it won’t be me!
