Tips for Playing Golf with Your Intimate Partner
Tips for Playing Golf with Your Intimate Partner
Roy Biancalana
Relationship Coach and Former PGA Tour Player
www.coachingwithroy.com
It’s not unusual for men and women to enjoy playing golf. What is unusual is for them to enjoy playing together—especially if they’re intimate partners! A round of golf with your partner can be fun or frustrating. Here are five tips to ensure that your time on the links together is the most enjoyable time of your week.
1. The Lauper Rule
My first tip is for the men. Why are you playing with your partner? That’s a critical question. If it’s for any other reason than having fun, your round will not be a good experience. Cindy Lauper sang, “Girls just wanna have fun,” and she was right. Couple’s golf is not the time to focus on your score, grind over every shot, demand quiet so you can concentrate, work on your swing or experiment with new equipment. If you’re focus is on anything other than your relationship and having fun together, you will create misery. Even if she’s a serious golfer, when she’s with you, she wants to have fun. Make that your mission.
2. Don’t Play Doctor
There is an old saying among golf instructors: “Amateurs teaching amateurs produces bad amateurs.” That’s a good idea because most amateurs don’t know what they’re talking about. But it’s really a good idea when your playing partner is your intimate partner. In fact, the saying should be, “Partners teaching partners produces separate bedrooms!” Play with each other; don’t help each other.
3. Keep Score of Smiles, not Strokes
Many times golfers begin their rounds with a target score they’d like to shoot. We say success would be to shoot, 99, 89, 79 or even 69. And that’s fine. We all like to set a goal and see if we can reach it, so go ahead and keep score. But if you want your day to really be successful, keep track of how many times you can make your partner laugh. Make it your secret goal; actually keep track on your scorecard.
4. Foreplay
Consider your four hours of play—foreplay. Flirt with each other. Tease each other. Be romantic. Hold hands in the cart. Kiss each other after good shots—and bad ones too. Make wonderfully inappropriate comments. Tell her she looks sexy when she’s putting; tell him he turns you on when he rakes your bunker. Again, golf isn’t the point. The two of you are. Create sexual tension. When your round ends, you’ll skip the 19th hole and head straight home!
5. Let Him Drive
I conclude with a tip for the ladies. Let him drive the cart. This is one time when he probably won’t get lost and need to stop and ask for directions!
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