How to Manifest the Love of Your Life

How to Manifest the Love of Your LifeRoy Biancalana
www.coachingwithroy.com

Imagine your love life one year from now. If you’re like me, that’s a fairly easy thing to do. You’re in love with the most amazing person you could ever imagine and life is blissful. That’s the easy part, isn’t it? We know what we want. We may even have a written list of qualities we want in a partner. We may even have gone so far as having created a vision board. My point is we know who we want, but we’re not sure how to find them.

Well, that’s not entirely true either, is it? We are well aware of the usual ways of finding love: The Internet, hanging out in bars, being fixed up, relying on chance, etc. So there are methods. It’s just that most of us aren’t very excited about them. There are too many players and pretenders out there. But what are we to do? We want to find love, but we’re not interested in being “out there” in the usual ways.

Over the next five installments of this newsletter, I want to discuss this confusing “how” issue in detail. And I want to begin by telling you that there is another way of attracting genuine love that does not require you to kiss a bunch of “frogs” in order to find your “prince.” There are five universal laws that govern manifestation in general, and they especially apply to manifesting love. If you consciously align your life with these five laws consistently, you will attract, create and manifest whatever vision you have for your life.

My niche and passion as a Relationship Coach is supporting single people who desire to attract the love of their lives. So as we proceed, I will show you how these laws can be used to manifest a great relationship. But with just a little work on your part, you can apply each of the five laws to any area of your life because they govern creation of any kind, including, health, fitness, business, sports performance, finding a job, spirituality, etc. The key to making them work for you, and I’ll say this over and over again in the issues to come, is to align yourself with them. They are THE rules of manifestation. The Universe desires to bless you. All that is required is your cooperation.

The first, and by far, the most important law that governs manifestation is Law of Commitment. You must actually want to manifest what you say you want to manifest in order for it to manifest. I know that seems obvious, but consider New Year’s resolutions. Why do most of us not fulfill them? Because underneath our stated intentions, there’s a stronger, and usually unconscious, counter-commitment at work, holding us back. In other words, you’ve got one foot on the gas and the other on the brake. If you want to manifest an amazing life partner (or anything else for that matter), you must discover, and let go of, your hidden, unconscious counter-commitments to doing so.

Here’s the startling truth: If you are single, on some level, you want to be single. In fact, whatever you are experiencing in your life, whether it’s physical, financial, emotional or occupational, etc., you are wanting to experience it. Sounds nuts, doesn’t it? But this first law says that your results reveal your true commitments. It doesn’t matter what you say you want; your results reveal what you really want. Let me give you an example.

I met a woman recently that was 45 years old and had never been married. She said she wanted to fall in love with a great guy, but as we talked, she admitted a deep fear of being rejected, hurt and abandoned. Can you see why she has kept herself single all these years? The counter-commitment of not being hurt was stronger than the stated commitment to falling in love. If she deals with her counter-commitment and lets it go, my guess is that within a month she’ll meet the man of her dreams.

If you want to manifest something new in your personal or professional life, the critical first step is to deal with your unconscious counter-commitments. (This process usually requires a coach. And it just so happens that I know of a really good one!)You must take your foot off the brake if you want to get anywhere. And you do that by spending a significant amount of time asking yourself what I call, “Quantum Manifestation Questions” or QMQ’s.

The QMQ for the Law of Commitment is this: What is the benefit or payoff for not getting what you want? What do you get out of things staying the way they are? If nothing comes to mind, turn it around. What’s the downside to manifesting what you want? What do you fear might, or will happen, if you get what you want? Sit with these questions for days, if necessary. If manifesting a life partner is not your issue, then simply ask the same questions of whatever is your issue. What’s the payoff for not creating what you say you want?

If you discover your counter-commitments and deal with them, you will effortlessly and quickly attract, create and manifest your heart’s desire—if of course, you align yourself with the four other Laws of Manifestation. Stay tuned.

Roy Biancalana

Roy Biancalana is an author, a certified relationship coach, a certified “Living Inquiry” facilitator and a spiritual teacher. He has been supporting the personal growth and life-transformation of thousands of people for nearly 25 years. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. With a warm, personal and informal style, Roy specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. READ MORE

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