A New Perspective on Divorce

One of the most radical perspectives of conscious living is to see every person, condition and circumstance in our lives as an ally, perfectly suited to help us learn the most important things for our growth.

That is an outrageous way to view the “shit” in our lives, because we choose to believe that there is no “shit,” only blessing, no matter who or what happens.

Let’s take a nasty divorce as an example. We can hate our ex and the whole “shitty” experience or we can see them and the experience as an ally, perfectly suited to help us grow in self-awareness.

When you see your ex and your divorce as an ally for your learning and growth, you actually become grateful—truly appreciative—for both.

If you make this shift in consciousness, then you’ll notice you won’t complain or moan to any friends or family about either. You’ll be grateful that they happened. In fact, on the deepest level, you wouldn’t want life to have gone any other way.

Now that, my friends, is a radical (and liberating) perspective to have. You become a truly grateful person, even when your heart is broken and tears are rolling down your face.


Roy Biancalana is a certified relationship coach and author of the #1 best selling book, Attracting Lasting Love: Breaking Free of the 7 Barriers that Keep You Single. For the past 10 years, Roy’s mission has been supporting single people in the art of creating conscious, lasting relationships. You can learn more about him at www.coachingwithroy.com.

Roy Biancalana

Roy Biancalana is an author, a certified relationship coach, a certified “Living Inquiry” facilitator and a spiritual teacher. He has been supporting the personal growth and life-transformation of thousands of people for nearly 25 years. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. With a warm, personal and informal style, Roy specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. READ MORE

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