Most people believe that the Law of Attraction is the key to finding a life partner. However, with more than a decade of experience as a relationship coach, I believe the Law of Attraction will actually ruin your love life and sabotage your ability to experience deep emotional intimacy. I...
If heart disease is the #1 killer of humans, then the scarcity mindset is the #1 killer of single people. No other belief can cause as much damage as the scarcity mentality can. A scarcity mentality will squeeze the life out you and it will keep you single—and I rarely meet...
TRUST is the secret sauce of all relationships. Without it, any kind of meaningful relationship is impossible. And yet most of us have been hurt, perhaps badly hurt, and those scars can make it extremely difficult to trust again. We know that carrying this kind of baggage will sabotage our love...
In a famous Seinfeld episode, Jerry dates someone just like himself. In the beginning he’s ecstatic because they have everything in common, but in the end, it starts driving him crazy because, as he says, “I hate myself!” That hilarious scene challenges the assumption that having things in common with...
My wife and I have virtually nothing in common and yet we are perfectly compatible. How can that be? Well, it’s because compatibility is, perhaps, the single most misunderstood relationship principle in the world today. People routinely seek to be compatible in ways that don’t matter, while they ignore being...
Everyone plays games. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but it’s true. In the dating world, everybody is playing a game, including you. I don’t mean, however, that everyone is manipulative and inauthentic (though some are) what I mean is that everyone dates with a certain mindset...
Do you want to attract lasting love? If so, there is a question you need to ask yourself, a question that is more important than any other. And that question is NOT “who do I want?” or “where should I go to meet someone?” Those are fair questions but they’re...
Since this is the time of year that we reflect, recalibrate and make resolutions, allow me to share my perspective on the human experience. I’ll keep it as short and sweet as possible, and I’ll use a metaphor too, because describing the spiritual realm is really hard to do. First,...
As a relationship coach, I offer relationship advice and self help wisdom to single people. I notice a lot of anxiety and stress during the holidays when it comes to giving gifts. Our minds swirl with questions like, “Should I give a gift to this or that person, and if...
As a relationship coach, I find that all the approaches people use to find their life partner fall into two major categories. There are conventional approaches and there’s the conscious approach. I describe the conventional approaches to attracting lasting love with 6 F-Words. They’re “bad” words, mostly because they don’t...
